I can take care of everything and everyone else in life, but how on earth do I learn to take care of my own basic needs when I always have such trouble recognizing what my needs are?
I am a counselor, a helper and an individual that others seem to rely on to assist them to move through their own personal problems and difficulties, but when the time comes to give myself some self care is certainly struggle to understand what that is and how to receive it when it is in front of me!
Here is a humorous example that arose a few months ago to show you that self care can backfire in order to help you to understand what you need!
I woke up miserable, I contracted a cold and flu bug while I was sleeping, my body ached, my breathing was laboured, my nose was running, I had a temperature and on a scale of 1 to 10, 10 being the highest rating ……I was at a 2.……..only if I thought positive!
I quickly decided it was up to me to create my day the way I wanted it to be and self care was the top item on my agenda. I grabbed my blanket and made myself a cup of tea, wrote on the blog and then laid down to have my day of self care……!!!
I had just laid down and my nose started to drip! No Kleenex’s around, so I was up in search of the Kleenex box.
I just got settled in one more time, the phone rang and I had forgotten to put the phone within reach, so the run to find the phone was on……..I tripped on the cat on the way to the telephone, finally made it and had a chat with the person who had called, laid back down once again, and forgot that I had moved my tea….
Back up to get the tea, and finally, I was set for my day of self care!
NOT TO BE FOR ME!
Interruptions continued throughout the day, there were meals to prepare, animals to care for, people to talk to and the more I got wrapped up in the day, the more I seemed to forget about being wrapped up my blanket of self love and caring, snuggled into my real blanket.
I was almost in tears from being sick and the frustration I felt so I decided that a shower, then laying down with my blanket, pillow and watching a little TV would definitely improve my disposition and my life in that moment!
It seemed like a big chore, but finally as I stepped into the nice warm shower, I could sense the self care happening! I was really doing something for me, shut off from the rest of the world, no phones, no hassles, no animals just me and the nice warm water, cleansing me from the inside out…….and then my husband decided to do the dishes for me, just to make me feel better, turned on the hot water…………and as I stood in the freezing cold water, screaming at the top of my lungs, tears started rolling down my face, and then I burst out laughing……….My cold was much better the next day and so was my disposition!
THIS SITUATION BROUGHT UP WHAT I NEEDED TO KNOW ABOUT MY HUMAN NEEDS AND MY BEING NEEDS. I NEED TO REMEMBER TO BE CONSCIOUSLY AWARE THESE PERSONAL NEEDS IN ORDER TO FEEL HAPPY AND BALANCED IN MY LIFE!
My Human Basic Needs are:
- Self Value
- Sense of mattering in my world
- Self Understanding
- The need to be needed
- Balance in my life Mentally, Physically, Emotionally and Spiritually
- Seeing the humor in my life
- Happiness within me