All of my life I have been what I now refer to as an opposite responder. When someone tells me that I can’t do something my automatic response to that statement is “Watch Me” and away I go and do it.
Today when someone says NO, that automatically means YES to me and YES now means NO. Now what does all of this mean to you? This might help!
What I have had to learn in life is how to become consciously aware of these responses of mine in order to stay out of trouble, not get stressed out, or being very exhausted from everyone who knows me saying, but you can’t do that knowing I will go ahead and do it because of my opposite responding to situations. Can’t do is the same as saying NO to me! It is CAN NOT abbreviated and my mind instantly knows that!
In the programs that I facilitate today, it always fascinates me to see the number of people that are just like me when it comes to the opposite responses, so one of the first things we talk about is when YES means NO and when NO means YES!
Understanding the difference this makes in our lives can sure simplify the way we live and what we do with our lives!
A few things that I have learned I would like to share with you now. They are:
- Be consciously aware as soon as the words CAN’T, YES and NO touch your lips…..What are you really saying?
- When you say NO does that really mean YES and is what you are about to do beneficial for you, or the rest of the world…Who will this action make a difference to? Are you being rebellious only to prove a point?
- When others tell you that you CAN’T do something, check it out and determine if you really want to do it before you do!
- When people learn that your NO means YES, be cautious and learn to give your response in a very different way so that they will not push you to do what deep down you choose not to do!
FOLLOW THIS LITTLE SECRET in order to have people really understand that you do know what your NO really is.
When someone asks me now to do something that I really do choose to not do, instead of saying NO I always use this phrase and any hassles around saying NO, mine of the other persons automatically disappear…..!
Are you ready?
Here it is……
All you need to say is YES, I WOULD REALLY LOVE TO BUT I CAN’T (CAN NOT)!
Just like Magic the person will walk away, change their own perspective and no longer ask you to do that which you really deep down choose not to do!
Peace, love, light and blessings!
Have you ever noticed that when you are told that you can’t do something, you won’t do it, or are you an opposite responder like me who when I am told I can’t do something I do it!..What is it about that word Can’t? Maybe it’s a good thing and it does starts with the word CAN!
Peace, love, light and blessings