From DailyOM.com:

When we schedule too much in our lives trying to meet our obligations, we only end up draining our energy.

We all encounter obligations in life, from spending time with family and friends to being present at important functions in the lives of the people who form our community. Many times, the obligations are actually fun and fulfilling, and we want to be there. At the same time, we all sometimes experience resistance to meeting these obligations, especially when they pile up all at once and we begin to feel exhausted, longing for nothing so much as a quiet evening at home. At times like these, we may want to say no but feel too guilty at the idea of not being there. Still, our primary obligation is to take care of ourselves, and if saying no to someone else is what we have to do, then we do not need to feel bad about it.

There is a skill to balancing our obligations, and it starts with simply becoming aware of our schedule. We may notice that three invitations have arisen in one weekend, and we know that we will pay energetically if we attempt to fulfill all three. At this point, we can take the time to weigh the repercussions of not going to each event, considering how we will feel if we miss it and how our absence might affect other people. Most of the time, it will be clear which obligation we can most easily let go and which one we simply can’t miss. Sometimes we have to miss something really important to us, and that can be painful for everyone concerned. At times like this, reaching out with a phone call, a thoughtful card, or a gift lets people know that you are there in spirit and that your absence is by no means a result of you not caring.

Meeting our obligations to others is an important part of being human and not one to take lightly. At the same time, we cannot meet every obligation without neglecting our primary duty to take care of ourselves. We can navigate this quandary by being conscious of what we choose to do and not do and by finding concrete ways to extend our caring when we are not able to be there in person.

Shared by “Jarrod”



The more balanced you are the greater sense of overall well being you will have!

To manage your stress some of these may help!

Getting in shape mentally as well as physically is important to combat stress over the long term. You can do this by:

  • Pacing Yourself – Take time out

-Reduce body tension and other stress symptoms by practising any number of helpful relaxation techniques.
-Re-evaluate the stressful situation in a positive light, by focusing realistically on what you can and cannot control or do.

  • Building Mental Muscle

-Be honest with your personal needs, limitations and abilitiesTurn negative obstacles into positive solutions

– Remember there are many choices and solutions to a problem
– Budget your time and energy. You can’t always give 100% all of the time.

  • Balancing Work with other Pleasures

– Have some fun!!!!!!!!
– Be active and enjoy yourself in the process
– Re-visit a hobby or leisure activity you used to love
– Eat well and treat yourself.
– Keep connected to friends and family (pets included)

  • Turning Stress into Strength

– Do something each day that leaves you energized and refreshed. Go for a long walk, take a hot bath, talk with friends.
– Learn assertive techniques and practise saying no when asked to do something you really can’t handle at this time.
– Practise doing things right now, rather than worrying about them all day long.
– Keep your mind focused on the present, doing one thing at a time, starting with your priority list.
– Learn a variety of relaxation techniques and practise taking frequent relaxation breaks.
– Become aware of the demands you place on yourself, not just the ones that others seem to be imposing.
– Learn to see other’s points of view and help others to appreciate yours.
– Take time to be alone on a regular basis – to think, assess, and explore your options and then design a personal action plan for you.
– Ask for help and seek support and counselling if you feel you are unable to cope.

My Personal Action Plan for Managing Stress is:



I Will start this plan today! Date:

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In the midst of everything that is going on in my life, I am focusing on taking the time that I need for myself to stay grounded and calm!

I am grateful for the knowledge I have, for the many people who are here for my support and for all of the gifts that are unique to me!

Thank you Creator!

We are all one, we are all related!
Peace, love, light and blessings!

“White Eagle”